The Caskey Family

Child, Parent, or God-Centered Family?
March 13, 2011, 11:05 pm
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I was just challenged this weekend by Mrs. Wright at a Seminary Wives’ Seminar to consider where our family falls between these three.

A child-centered home is a home where most things flex to serve the child, at the expense of other family members and even at the expense of needs the family has. Other (parent-centered) families can structure their family mainly around what mom and/or dad desire without much consideration or priority given to what may serve or be most loving for the children.

Both extremes are unbiblical, is the point Mrs. Wright (whose husband teaches here at seminary) made. We must strive to have GOD-centered homes and families. Instead of pleasing children or parents, we ask, “what pleases God?” or “what serves others,” or “what will show love to others?”

A God-centered home remembers that the greatest commandment is to love the Lord our God with all our hearts, minds, souls, and strength. . .and that we are called secondly to love our neighbors as ourselves. As parents we model that to our children, and train and foster that in them also.

In evaluating what our family is centered on, I’ve asked myself few questions:

1. What things would my children say are most important to our family? (this can be determined by how we spend your time, what makes me angry or happy, etc.)
2. What phrases are most commonly said in our home? (The good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth what is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure brings forth what is evil; for his mouth speaks from that which fills his heart. Luke 6:48)
3. How is my time given away, and to whom and to what? (Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Cor. 10:31)
4. What do the rules or limitations or guidelines in our house say about what we are centered on?
5. Do I worship order, rules, the idea of a better-behaved or functioning family, or do I worship the God who made us, and demands that we worship no one but HIM? (all those things are not bad, our house could probably use some more, but I cannot place it in importance above God, and his priorities). (Jesus answered him, “It is written, ‘YOU SHALL WORSHIP THE LORD YOUR GOD AND SERVE HIM ONLY.'” Luke 4:8)

May God give us hearts of worship devoted only to him!!

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Thanks, Adina. This is a great reminder for me of a challenge I will soon encounter in a whole new way as a new mom! Very encouraging.

Comment by Amanda Jump

Thanks for the encouragement! The first question reminded me of a conversation David and I had last week. We were talking about someone (in a good way, not gossip!) and David said that that man’s personal “phrase” (in the context of our conversation) was “Personal Responsibility”. That got us thinking about what someone would say we were “all about”. I think David’s phrase would be something like “Love God and Love Others”. It’s neat to think about what our family’s phrase would be… I suppose logically it would be what David’s is since he is the leader of the family! 😀
Lots of good food for thought! Thanks for sharing!
P.S. We need to see some new pictures of Elijah, Merry, and Micah!

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